If someone took a few seconds to stop what they are doing and let you know that you are a beautiful human being, how would you react? If you don’t know, watch this video of people just like you being told they are beautiful and someone has acknowledged their existence in a discreet way.
Try not to tear up.
I am surrounded by people who constantly compare themselves to others or throw negative comments about someone’s look. I used to be like that. At a young age, however, I began training my brain not only to stop comparing myself and others but also to see them as they are.
I stopped labeling people and started paying attention to their behavior. It became about who they were as a person rather than how they looked. Everyone is beautiful.
Some may not believe it because of what they have been trained to hear. From their parents, the Internet, opposite gender, television, music, movies. etc. Messages that aren’t good for your wellness. Messages that are geared to influence your decision. It’s all a form of marketing. My communication studies degree has allowed me to see how everyday interactions can influence the mind and thoughts. The brain is easy to train but it takes time. If a message is repeated often enough, it becomes reality to those who come in contact with it. Repetition creates thought pattern.
“you should (insert action) to be better”
“s/he is out of your league”
“no one’s gonna want you if you look like that”
“don’t dress like that, you look like a (insert a derogatory word) ”
“what is wrong with you?”
No wonder why too many people have little to no self-esteem. It’s not their fault, it’s what their minds have been trained to believe. It can be undone.
It takes three words to start, repeated over time.
“I am beautiful.”
“You are beautiful.
You don’t have to repeat it to anyone except yourself. But why not repeat it to others too? Don’t just say it, truly work to mean it. Words are worthless if you aren’t doing anything to improve your self talk. Would you say what you say to yourself to a friend or family? If not, change those and make them more positive thoughts. Watch how your world changes.
What’s your worst self talk?